I know I havent blogged for awhile and I apologize but I am really feeling the need to vent at the moment.
I am so sick and tired of rude people and it sucks even more when they are family.
So about 3 months ago I had a discussion with my father in law regarding throwing my husband a graduation/ "you are now an official plumber" party. I thought it would be nice considering he never really has had a surprise party that I would throw him one. Although it was already in my mind to do something, the reason the discussion started was because he and Bill's sister were discussing how we should make sure we do something nice for Bill's graduation and that basically it would be sucky if I didnt do anything for him. So before I allowed them to think I hadn't put any thought into it I jumped and said I already had planned on throwing him a nice party and we would invite all of his family and friends and it would be at my fathers restaurant. At that point it was still 3 months away, he had not passed the test yet therefore unnecessary to discuss further details. About 1 month ago I was attempting to set the date and basically I kept hearing from his family "well this date wont work because we have a wedding and this date wont work because it is our anniversary" so obviously knowing that the most important people to him other than myself and Emma could not make those days I changed to a more "convenient" date. Great we are still okay yet a little annoyed that they had not offered to help foot some of the bill but I thought fine I will deal with it somehow and maybe they will do something. I also assumed that they would get the hint being I worded the invitation "thrown by Val, Emma and the Reimer Famiily." So today now 4 days before the "big event" that I am very excited for my husband about the big party and I think it should be very nice BUT I ran into a little issue because I cant afford to spend alot of money on the food and I was looking at spending about $300 more on food then I was planning to so at this point I needed one of three things to happen, my money tree to grow, cut out some of the menu (which really wasnt all that elaborate to begin with) , or have help paying for it via someone else who cares LIKE HIS PARENTS!!! So in my own passive aggressive way I called them and said being that I have just found out that I will not be able to afford the menu we had previously discussed do you have any solutions? The response...not well what if we helped pay. The response I got was what about just cutting out the italian beef because it can be messy anyways. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!! Its your freakin son! Not the guy down the street (well sort of cause we live down the street but..)! I shouldnt even be having this issue because considering they were pushing me to do it I thought I would have not even had to worry about asking for help. I assumed they would have offered but we all know what assuming does so that was just dumb on my part.
I am going allow my pregnancy hormones to calm down for a bit and I think I will just be blunt with it and ask if there is any way that they could pay for the cake because this party is getting a little bit expensive. Im trying to be rational and reasonable. I will see how it goes. Please comment and tell me if I am being irrational. I can accept that if I am. I feel like it is very clear to me but maybe I am the one being rude.
Thanks for the venting either way.